When you write a dating blog, speed dating is part of the territory.And so for the last 2 years, I’ve attended more speed dating events than I can count. ‘Elite’ speed dating, silent speed dating, blind speed dating, paper bag speed dating, cycle speed dating, literary speed dating … But no matter the gimmick, it always seems to come down to the same brutal truth. Speed dating originated in 1998, and was set up by an American rabbi, as a way for young, single Jewish people to meet one another.A great way to break the ice and a perfect excuse to talk to anyone you fancy.
Even if you aren’t the most socially confident person, speed dating can be more of a bane, because the nature of it – a short 4 or 5 minute judgment, sitting face on with a stranger in a forced environment – can make it feel like an interview, and make you even more nervous and awkward.
Back in the naughties, when the idea was novel, speed dating events attracted large diverse crowds.
Up for a laugh, people embraced the novelty, and tried it.
In general, women will turn up in groups, and be more relaxed and confident about the affair.
Whilst sociable women might see Speed Dating as an opportunity to broaden their pool of options, attractive, sociable men very rarely consider speed dating an option (unless they’ve been dragged along by a friend).