Dating right after a long term relationship

Rather than jumping into a new relationship to avoid being alone, give yourself a chance to explore life on your own terms.

“It helped, because I got to see what 'normal' looked like,” Roché says.

In particular, avoid over-reminiscing about your old life; it may make your new acquaintance feel excluded. You may long to clone your lost love, but it’s unlikely you’ll ever meet an exact replica of the one you were with. After all, the person you met at age 25 changed over a lifetime, and so did you.

Now you’re in a different stage, with a redrawn horizon.

“You need to find single friends to have a social life with.” Not only have you changed since you were last single, but so have your social life, circle of friends, and routines.

You might meet a new partner through a friend or by clicking with a mysterious stranger -- but you may also want to consider online dating.